HELLO

There is no need to hurry to introduce myself. In time, we will know about each other as much as we can.

I just finished reading another book yesterday night. It is called The Key. Written by Joe Vitale. Vitale got into my life approximately three years ago. It was through a video by a book called Secret. I was seriously affected by Secret and took a strong interest in The Law of Attraction. I read a lot. The readings were not limited only to The Law of Attraction, but Quantum Theory and Thinking, Positive Thinking and The Sedona Method under Self Development. Besides, these days I am much interested in another method but I am not going to mention it now. It requires to be written another time under another heading. That’s the way I think 
As I mentioned above, I read a lot. I do not simply read, but at the same time I implement what I learn from the books into my life. I even go beyond and share what I read.

There are some who take positive attitude towards this, also some with very negative criticism.

Some of my friends or acquaintances appreciate me; they see my effort but they may follow my example or not. In fact, nobody should follow one single person and his experience to develop personally. I believe that every one of us has different paths for our individual development, I can see it clearly because I am a teacher and there are always personal differences among my students. Just because of this I read a lot, try to assimilate what I read and I practise when I feel close to some theories. Yet, I have never quit reading and I think such an enjoyable activity will always have its place in my life. I appreciate when people approve of my readings because I appreciate people who like reading or not.

My problem is with people who are obsessively criticising my readings or execution of the methods. I will never understand how people benefit from such behaviour. Assume that I gave up reading and dedicated myself every day to TV. Every day I watch another series that are boring and dull. Imagine On Mondays I watched Ezel, Tuesdays Aşk ve Ceza, Wednesdays Yaprak Dökümü, Thursdays Aşk-ı Memnu and Fridays Hanımın Çiftliği. ( Very popular TV series in Turkey) I went out on Saturday nights and just roaming. On Sundays I could probably go to a pool to hunt for a man  Would it be okay? I am seriously curious, what would happen if I did these things. Will those people be overjoyed out of my misery? Let’s assume that I no longer read these Self Development books, what would those people feel? Victory? If I can be in any way beneficial, I’d like to learn :)

I usually hear such remarks from those people:

“Oh my God! Again these ridiculous books you’re reading!”. RIDICULOUS!

“Since you believe in these books and you think that they work, why are you constantly reading?” SO THEY ARE USELESS!

“The books are just the requirements of a Capitalist World.” SO, RANA, YOU’RE A FOOL!

I’ll be seriously honest. It is also one of the important principles in Self Development. I’ll be honest. At the beginning I would feel seriously furious because of those people and I was just hopelessly trying to persuade them that the books were really helpful. But now, it is not like that!

I hear them but that does not mean I listen to them.

I’m not a personal coach or trainer, neither an author nor a scripter. Not a poet at all! I graduated from English Literature department and I am just a person who is interested in literature modestly. I’m not one of those people I mentioned above. Not yet. But I’m a good reader. I don’t only read these kind of books. I like reading about various books as long as they address my personal interests, make contributions and take me to another world in which I experience different things. Sometimes I read Self Development books and I try out things I read. Sometimes philosophy. Sometimes World’s Classics, sometimes I read just for pleasure. Cheap novels I call them. And all meet my certain needs for a while. I either smile, improve, question or enjoy. But I read, and I always prefer it since reading is a very joyful activity for me.

I’m not writing these to dogmatize. I can’t say do this or that. I know how far I can go. I can’t dare it! Not now! As I mentioned above, I’m not an expert coach or something. I’ve just been on a journey for so long and I can give some examples from my own experience. That’s all I can do for the time being. I can recommend some books and share my own experience related to them.

Everything will grow when it is shared.

I’m not trying to take care of the world issues. The responsibility that I prioritized is for me not for the whole world. There is a traditional Turkish belief: “Read, study hard, develop yourself, graduate from a university and be a good person for the world.” That’s just not appropriate for me. My only aim is to finish my own journey joyfully when I close my eyes in the end. To make the world a good place might be a very good idea, but long-term goals may inhibit you to achieve the short-term ones. I’ve learned not to focus on out-of-reach wills. (The book Evrenden Torpilim Var by Aykut Oğut has a part about this issue and explains it very clearly.) However, I can explain it through an example:

I’m attending a teaching programme to obtain a diploma from Cambridge University. It will end in two years. Okay, there is going to be an exam in the middle of 2011 and if I succeed in the exam, I will graduate from the programme. But, there is a long journey until I get the diploma. There are a lot of things I have to finish – course work, assignments, etc. For instance, I have to fill in some documents and complete an assignment. I need to submit them at the beginning of February. Which one should I focus on? The exam I’m going to take in 2 years time or the responsibilities I need to fulfill in a very short time?

I think the answer is just there, apparent :)

I mean, the world may of course be a better place in time but I have to take care of my life first and make it a pretty one. I should have my hair done, wear some make-up, buy some beautiful clothes and take a shower every day :) Of course I’m not talking about these. First, I need to develop individually, and make my life a shiny one. I need to focus on every beautiful thing in my life and be thankful for it. Beginning a day with a smile, be a joy for the people around, help some who need, to keep my class aura always positive, be happy when I’m home, to communicate with people effectively, namely keep my life at a positive level and have some new experience. If you feel it, experience it within your self, it will definitely be reflected in your physical appearance.

The body is just the reflection of your soul.

And.....got divorced about two years ago..Imprisoned in her own house...it was very difficult to wake up in the mornings...no hope for her life...damned...cursed..even when taking her dog to a walk...so blunt that she could never cry anymore...no longer enjoyed cooking...provided only diet coke to survive...met no friends...needed no company...rejecting phone calls...I mean, I who locked herself into her house. Never forgiven for six years that had been wasted for a hopeless relationship!!!

Now, I wake up every day with a smiling face. When the sun rises, I feel always thankful for the new day which I am constantly born on. I enjoy walking with my dog. I wouldn’t find the leash, but now I dress my dog with beautiful dog clothes  I wouldn’t clean the cat litter, but now I maintain it regularly on a daily basis. I enjoy being in the classroom with my students. I used to complete writing my assignments on the day which was just before the due date, but now I study regularly when an assignment is set and it does not bother me anymore. I would curse the world because I couldn’t have enough time for anything, now I’m so much thankful that I can spare some time for everything in my life. And I enjoy it :)

Have negative thoughts never seized my mind? Aren’t they? Won’t they? Blah! What a question! :)

They certainly did, they are and they will..But I’ve just learned and go on learning.

I read a lot..